This article by Neuroscience news discusses the difficult to accept point that perhaps we are not designed to be happy. I think this makes a lot of sense to me and certainly seems to explain why we struggle to be happy.
From a survival point of view it makes more sense for us to be vigilant and on guard most of the time, and have moments where we are able to feel safe with certain people and in certain environments. Maybe the moments of safety, contentment and companionship are ‘happiness’, and all we can ever really have are these moments.
If we stop trying to be happy, stop asking ourselves if something is wrong because we aren’t as happy as we ‘should’ be, and instead take small comfort in the moments of contentment we do have. Perhaps this can take some of the pressure and expectation off of us?
The full article is here.